Sunday, May 10, 2009

A Tribute (I Can't Help it)


There are a lot of reasons that I love my Mom. I love that she can start up a lively conversation. I love the way she always the house stocked and ready with our favorite things when we visit (orange juice for Tara, cherrios for Colleen, and tea for me). I love the fact that she doesn't complain about working hard. I love the way she loves my Dad. I love that she wants to solve our problems when we are having rough times. I could go on...but I would rather share an example.

When Elodie was first born (11 weeks ago, can you believe it??), my Mom came up for a week and cared for the four of us. I meant to write about it back then, but the sleepless delirium caused a fog in my brain and I never did. First of all, my Mom was ready, I mean bags packed, cell phone on, ready to drive up weeks before my due date. She was completely flexible about when she would come and what her role would be, and I really appreciated that, because there were so many potential birth scenarios. Just a couple of weeks before baby time I panicked about being "all alone" with two kids. By myself. In a new town. No friends. Husband working long hours in the city. By myself. You get the point -I can get a bit dramatic. We decided it would be best for my Mom to come back the week Rob went back to work. So she came up again about a week after returning home from meeting Elodie. The week my Mom was here was BY FAR my toughest post partum week (so far, keep your fingers crossed!). I was a wreck. I was super sick with a breast infection and some other stuff that probably doesn't belong in a blog. I wasn't sleeping much, and nursing was going pretty poorly. I felt like I was just floating along, eating sandwiches that were placed in my hand, putting on clothes that had somehow become clean, and napping on pillows that miraculously appeared. During that week I was also incredibly grumpy. When I say grumpy, don't picture a cute little dwarf who's cheeks turn pink when kissed by a fairytale figure. No, think grumpy: Having or showing a bad temper: cantankerous, crabbed, cranky, cross, disagreeable, fretful, grouchy, ill-tempered, irascible, irritable, nasty, peevish, petulant, querulous, snappish, snappy, surly, testy, ugly. You get my point. Guess who took the brunt of my attitude? You guessed it, my Mom. But my Mom just kept cleaning, folding, cooking, caring, and burping (the baby, that is). Not once did she snap back at me. She was the one that placed those sandwiches in my hand, and washed the clothes that came clean, and placed the pillows under my head. My Mom took such great care me when I was far from lovable.

And that's my Mom. She is fun smart, and adventurous...but the best thing about her is her ability to love her family when we are unloveable.

So, thanks, Mom. Thanks taking such great care of me all of my life; especially during the times when I have acted unloveable. I hope I can do the same for my babies. Happy Mother's Day!


6 comments:

Soderin Family said...

That's a wonderful tribute Kelly! Sounds like your mom really loves you! And yes, you will do the same for your kiddos some day. Hope you had a wonderful Mother's day! I will call you tomorrow.

Mom Ryan said...

Ok. So here I am at my desk at AAA with tears running down! That was very, very kind of you, and you weren't quite that grumpy. Just very tired and also sick, and I was very glad to be of help during a rough patch. You will always be there for your kids, too! I know that for sure.
Thank you for such a wonderful tribute!!

Colleen said...

That was really sweet, Kell. I got teary-eyed. It was funny too. Good job. :) She's a great Mom, it's true. And a belated happy mother's day to you! Love you!

Thomas Clan said...

amen. your mom sure is wonderful. i'm glad to know that first hand too. not to the extent you do of course, but i sure appreciate her too. love you Kathy!! :)

Mom Ryan said...

Thank you Stacy...speaking of wonderful Moms!! :)

Tara said...

OK - I'm a bit behind in the blog world (sorry, you know how May is at our house!!), but I am still sitting here in a puddle of tears! That was a very wonderful tribute. It's amazing that with Ally so close to double digits I can already imagine being a grammy to her babies, and what a great example we have in our mom! We love you mom/grammy XOXOXO!